THE ENEMY WITHIN and how to find it in your birth chart!

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One of the extraordinary gifts of the birth chart and Astrology, is that it shows us clearly those parts of our psyche that we tend to “project” outside, or see in others.

That connection between planets we call aspects, whether it be by angles of 180 °, 90 °, 150 ° particularly, show us clearly that part of ourselves we find hard to assimilate as ours and we tend to live it through other people

The planets called malefic in traditional Astrology like: Mars, Saturn and Pluto, to name a few, are those we find hardest to recognize within ourselves and we tend to see them in the eyes and actions of others. Yet, any planet can be projected to the outside or rather to someone else, which is the same as saying, that any planet can become our “shadow”.

We may find Mars, the Warrior, as those who always seem to compete with us, those who always seem to feel the need to argue with us. Saturn, the great critic is the most common of the projections, since our intense insecurity, low self-esteem and internal criticism, makes us feel criticized by others. A simple gesture, a word on the lips of another, can unleash a series of emotions and send us to that place in our psyche, where we are most vulnerable and most inadequate. Pluto, the Lord of darkness, is seen in the other as the one that who wants to dominate us, the one that doesn’t let us be who we really are, in the disguise of a parent, a boss or a lover.

As you might imagine, the ‘other’, usually those people closest to ourselves and with whom we share some sort of emotional relationship, becomes the monster that condemns us, who doesn’t values us, the parent, boss or friend who criticizes us, the one who envy us, who haunts us and judges us and doesn’t let us be happy. They are those people we wish would disappear from the face of the Earth, in order to be happy. If only they didn’t exist!!

It is clear that none of this takes place in the ‘other’, hardly so, but deeply within our psyche. All of this becomes even more interesting when comparing the astrological charts of two people,in what we call Synastry, and there that we can see, as if by magic, that planets in the chart of people who somehow become the recipient of our projections, those we call evil people, seem to be intertwined with ours in the most interesting fashion. Is this what attracted us to them? And if so, what is that quality that at first seems to join us in “something special”, to end so differently?

How many times have we said: “How is it possible that this person would do this?”, or “how could I have fallen in love with this person?” It is precisely at this point that we should take back our projections and look within ourselves. The right question then, would be: “What is it in the attitude of this person that has such an effect inside me?” What is he/she touching in me?

These apparent enemies are at the end our great masters and teachers, if we take advantage of the opportunity. If we stay victimized, blaming the other, then we are losing the lesson and it is a matter of time until ‘another person’ with a different face and even background, presses in us the same button. Part of the process of growing-up, is to learn these lessons and little by little, let go of the victimization process, to become the masters of our own development and our own experiences.

If you feel a victim of another, then you’re not learning the lesson and are stuck in a pattern that is crying loudly that you attend to it and shed some light on it. Through the chart, we can see clearly, which are those qualities we find difficult to assimilate and see in the eyes of others. Without awareness there is no happiness, although on the road towards it, we may go through the pain. Without pain there is no birth or transformation. Without transformation there is no life.
The drawing used in this article belongs to John Cleese’s wonderful book “FAMILIES, and how to survive them”

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VENUS STATIONS RETROGRADE on May 16th, 2012

Venus the great Olympic goddess of love, beauty, creativity and good living, which includes money (or the expending of it), entered Gemini on the 3rd of this month which ends today, but it is on May 16th, that will begin its retrograde motion, something that occurs every 18 months.

We describe a planet in retrograde motion when we see it station to then begin to move backward, on their journey around the Sun. Except the Sun and the Moon, all planets have their retrograde period. As I have already explained in the past, this apparent motion in reverse, is not more than an optical illusion, which is created by the rotation of the Earth in relation to the movement of the planet.

If you want to see an of example of such an event, go to http://www.astrologycom.com/retroframe.html

These cosmic events seem to coincide with situations in our lives, when we are called to RE-vise, RE-study, RE-think, RE-structure something in our lives. These are the moments when we need to take a step back, in order to move forward again.

When we talk about Venus, we obviously have to look at our personal relationships, work out exactly what we are trying to solve in our relations, or in any situation which involves exchange of money, in a creative project, in the way in which we live our own beauty.

This is not a time for aesthetic surgery, but rather, a time to RE-think if we really want to do it. It is not a good time to break a relationship, but to RE-consider how we feel about our partner. If we are not in a relationship, then it is a good opportunity to think, why not, if we really want one or not, and if we want it and do not have it, meditating on the reasons of why not.

Our attitude to personal relationships, is greatly coloured by our transgenerational history, and according to the aspects that the Moon and Venus make to the collective planets (Urano-Neptuno and Pluto) in our birthchart, we can understand what emotional situations we come from. What is that which seems to “manage us” from within, that we cannot control or fully understand and that never mind how hard we try we don’t seem to be able to “transcend”.

Venus starts stations retrograde on May 16th at 24º Gemini forming a semisextil to Jupiter at 24º Taurus and an exact trine with Saturn in Libra.

These aspects of the Venus evoke situations of the past that need to solve, especially those which began 7, 14, 21 or 28 years earlier. A cycle begs for completion and it needs a thorough review to finally put an end to it and move forward, physically and emotionally. Lovers, husbands, wives, relations of the past may turn up in our lives again, so that we can “close this chapter of our lives”. All those separations that have not really concluded, now have an opportunity to do so.

The semisextil of Jupiter will help us feel better about the outcome, whichever it is.

Mars makes the last exact trine to Pluto, auguring a positive debate, with good intentions on both sides, with real possibilities for resolution, but certain willingness is required by both parties to reflect on the matter and let go of vengeful feelings that will only make the conflict survive.

Patience and forgiveness are two of the feelings and attitudes learned in these moments.A deep insight is necessary to really understand what is that we should really let go of, in order to live happier lives.

This Venus retrograde motion coincides with the solar annular eclipse of May 20th, or New Moon in Gemini(I will write about it in the next article), and the partial lunar eclipse or Full Moon of June 4th, which also coincides with Venus forming a square to Mars in Virgo, which suggests that we should really look deep in our hearts so that we can act in the manner most beneficial for ourselves and those we love. This is an excellent opportunity to discover our inner ambiguity and our most diverse feelings, those we normally project onto others or on “the other”. This is the pivotal point of this cosmic event.

As Michael Jackson sang: “Begin with the man in the mirror……”

A reunion with old friends is possible and/or the restoration of old relations that marked a very vital social moment in our lives. The need to find a new way to relate to each other, less intense and demanding and yet equally satisfactory is one of the benefits of Venus in Gemini. Venus will station direct on 28th of June to 7º Gemini, when it makes a quincunx to Pluto and a sextile to Uranus. It enters Cancer on August 8th, ending its transit through the sign of the twins.